What I Ate Wednesday #84: Dating Yourself

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Another week, another What I Ate Wednesday. As always, thanks to Jenn for hosting the weekly link party. To see more WIAW from other bloggers, visit Peas & Crayons.

I don’t know about you, but I find that when I’m single (or in that stage of the relationship where I need even more “me” time and start faking headaches) it’s easy to fall into food ruts. For me, that tends to involve lots of oatmeal, salads, soup, and eggs. It’s not that these are bad foods, but eating the same few things makes me feel like my grandfather, who ate soup everyday for lunch when he lived with my family.

The only first-date question I hate more than “So, uh, do you mind if we split the bill?” (I always offer anyway, but please don’t wait until after you scan the check to decide whether I’m worth the extra half) might be “What’s your favorite book?” I’m being slightly hyperbolic, but that question just fills me with dread, mostly because I feel super-pretentious waxing on about John Irving and Bukowski and Joan Didion and my weakness for music non-fiction. It’s also because I’m afraid to talk about Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way. Reading this “guide to living the artist’s life” at 19 was life-changing and affirming, but it’s hard to feel like a grown-up when you’re talking about nurturing your “inner artist child.”

However, it’s an important message: we need to take care of ourselves and tune in to that little voice that’s so easily ignored as we go about our busy days. One thing Cameron talks about is taking yourself on “artist dates,” and while I can’t say I always find time to physically go to, like, museums and such by myself, I do try to be nice to myself and not be overly critical or impatient. I like the idea that you should “date” yourself. You wouldn’t be a jerk to someone you really liked and wanted to keep around, so why not treat yourself with the same consideration? Not that you shouldn’t do this when you’re in a relationship with another person, of course. 

This past weekend, for example, I took myself to a favorite yoga class Saturday morning and got a massage on Sunday. I also took a little extra time to enjoy some nice meals. Yes, there was still some soup and some eggs consumed, but mixing in a few fancier things was a nice change of pace.

Breakfast: Sunday morning’s pumpkin pancakes were so freaking good. I wish I made time for this more often.

Lunch: Baked salmon with rosemary (when you’re cooking for yourself, it’s extra-okay if presentation is less than perfect-whoops) served alongside a salad with roasted veggies and hummus instead of dressing —another bonus: this cost about $7 to make at home, much less than I’d have paid in a restaurant. 

Dinner: Bareburger with friends after a ladies’ yoga-date. Whether you’re dating yourself or another human, time with friends is important! 

Do you date yourself? 

10 thoughts on “What I Ate Wednesday #84: Dating Yourself

    raechel @the rebel grrrl kitchen said:
    November 14, 2012 at 2:19 pm

    Love this post, lady. I don’t take myself on enough dates. I am in a relationship, but crave “me” time like crazy. And I am diligent about carving out friend-time too. Soooo important. I should start having more extravagant me-time dates though. I was thisclose to going to a movie by myself the first time (to see “Perks!”), but ended up not. Still on my list!

    Also, speaking of music non-fiction, have you read Just Kids? I’m working my way through it (between school reading), and just looove it.

      Jess responded:
      November 15, 2012 at 1:09 am

      I loved that book! Also, I’ve never been to a movie alone, but it’s on my list as well. I almost went to see a matinee of Seven Psychopaths a couple weeks ago but chickened out. With a bunch of movies coming out that I want to see, I should just do it!

    Eating 4 Balance said:
    November 14, 2012 at 2:59 pm

    Haha. I hate those questions, not matter who they come from! Like, what’s your favorite movie? Favorite book? What do you do? Ugh… TOO MUCH pressure 😀

    Those pumpkin pancakes look amazing!

      Jess responded:
      November 15, 2012 at 1:11 am

      The favorite movie question drives me crazy too! It’s, like, do I really want to own up to having basically memorized both Wayne’s World and the Royal Tenenbaums?

    sloanepitman said:
    November 14, 2012 at 3:24 pm

    I love the idea of dating yourself! I’ve been spending a lot of time by myself recently (for the first time in my life!) and I’ve started to find it incredibly therapeutic to make myself special meals that take time and creativity. Its so nice to just spend some time with yourself. That baked salmon looks delicious! One of my favorites 🙂 happy wednesday!

      Jess responded:
      November 15, 2012 at 1:12 am

      Fussing a little over yourself is so nice. Happy Wednesday to you too!

    Birthday Weekend | Keeping It Real Food said:
    December 2, 2012 at 7:46 pm

    […] nice dinner—it wasn’t the most gorgeous plate ever, but it tasted fantastic. Like I said in my post about dating yourself, you need to do nice things for yourself that you would do for someone […]

    […] about yesterday’s post. I know we’ve talked before about what to eat after sex and the awesomeness of making yourself elaborate breakfasts when you’re single, but have you ever thought about what your choice in breakfast food says […]

    “Artist Date” Weekend | Keeping It Real Food said:
    May 25, 2013 at 9:11 pm

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    […] of love besides romantic love. This post is all about self-love. It’s not even just about dating yourself—though that’s a good one too. I mean in the most basic sense. I always like to go back to […]

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