Buying My Feelings

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I think it’s only just starting to hit me what an intense few days it’s been for the New York City area (and around the rest of the east coast too).  I think because I was safe and dry and went right into “how can I help” mode, I didn’t really have a chance to really feel much of anything besides grateful—and tired. But wow. I think this New York magazine cover says a lot more than I could. 

I worked a pretty quiet day at the hospital today—it was kind of eerie. My patients were lovely, but I just felt kind of…unsettled. In the aftermath of an event like this, you can give your time and your money, but then what? And then all those “what if” questions start.

So naturally, I did what any  American female worth her credit card limit would do—I went shopping. The only thing I really “need” right now is candlesticks (ironic, I know, but they’ve been on my list for over a month), but somehow, I decided that what I really needed to do was get rid of the last of my ex-boyfriend’s dishes since it’s been over a year and, well, I don’t really need them. Besides, bad energy. I’d throw them at a wall, but then I’d have to clean up the mess, and who knows what kind of karmic BS would be unleashed, right?

For better or worse, West Elm also happened to be having a sale on dinnerware, glassware, and the like, so I bought myself a few new bowls and a mug that makes me smile. At $20, this was some pretty effective retail therapy. Life’s too short not to love what you’re drinking and eating from.

I think the last time I actually bought dishes/bowls was when I moved into my first apartment back in 2006. Crazy to think of it that way, but time has this funny way of passing.

Do you like cute dishes and bowls? Do you have ex-lover’s kitchenware? Ever broken plates on purpose? 

7 thoughts on “Buying My Feelings

    Emily said:
    November 4, 2012 at 12:57 am

    I break plates, glasses, bowls, everything. All the time. Not on purpose. I’m so clumsy. We used to have 8 wine glasses, now we only have two.. hahah gosh.

      Jess responded:
      November 5, 2012 at 12:06 am

      I’m actually shocked I haven’t broken any of my glasses. What I have broken a lot of is measuring cups, for whatever reason.

    jenn sutkowski said:
    November 4, 2012 at 1:04 am

    Love you! Love your new wares. I can totally relate. I seem to have purged all exes’ kitchenware but have a slew of old books belonging to one. Must donate. Good for you for getting rid of in a timely manner. I have never thrown a plate on purpose but i know a few who have! Hang in there. Good thoughts and love to you and the city. They’re lucky to have you, your caring soul and your indefatigable energy.

      Jess responded:
      November 5, 2012 at 12:05 am

      It’s so funny how much, like, emotion gets tied up in cookware and tableware! Makes sense though! Love you too!

    raechel @the rebel grrrl kitchen said:
    November 4, 2012 at 1:05 am

    I love this post. “Life’s too short not to love what you’re drinking and eating from.” So.true. And something I’m not currently practicing all the time. I’ve been talking for months about buying big mugs that can also function as bowls, because I prefer eating from mugs! I really just need to suck it up and buy some.

    I don’t have an ex’s dishes, but I do have some dishes I bought for a special vegan “Sundae Sunday” night I planned for the guy I was dating and his young daughter. They are just little plastic red bowls from Target, but I alllwaaaaysss think of the Sundae Sundays when I eat anything out of them.

    Cookware spectres.

    Feel feelings, friend. As an Aquarius, it’s only so often that I let myself do it, so I know that when the moment strikes, it’s important to take advantage.

      Jess responded:
      November 5, 2012 at 12:04 am

      Cookware spectres—so true! Thanks for that. I’ve been trying to just acknowledge what comes up when it does and not tell myself I “shouldn’t” be feeling stuff when there are people going through hardships I probably can’t even imagine. We all need to process, though—only way to keep moving forward and do what we need to do to take care of each other.

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